Writing Good Messages¶
The Domina rewards specificity. The more clearly you state what you want and what you have to work with, the better the session plan you get. You do not need fancy prompt syntax. You need clear sentences.
The four-line opener¶
A great opening message before a session has four short lines:
- Time you have. "I have about 20 minutes."
- Energy and headspace. "Eager but a little nervous."
- Tone you want. "Cold and exact, not playful."
- A direction or a constraint. "Edging-focused. No impact tonight."
That is enough information for the planner to build a tight session. You can elaborate after she proposes.
Patterns that work¶
| Goal | Phrasing that lands |
|---|---|
| Shift her tone | "Be stricter for the rest of this." / "Soften this; I'm raw tonight." |
| Steer content | "Focus on chastity, skip oral tonight." |
| Adjust difficulty mid-session | "Step it up one notch." / "Hold here, don't escalate." |
| Use a specific item | "Use the steel plug, not the silicone." |
| Pause without ending | "Hold; I need five minutes." |
| End cleanly without safe word | "End the session here, that's enough." |
Patterns that do not work¶
- Vague mood words alone. "I'm in the mood" tells her nothing. Pair it with a tone or content steer.
- Asking her to be live with you. "Can you watch me?" "What do you see?" She will not pretend; she will redirect to written instruction.
- Asking her to break a hard limit. She will decline. Repeat asks do not soften her. If you want a hard limit removed permanently, do it from the Hard Limits screen.
- Walls of text with no ask. She will reply, but the reply will be generic. Long is fine; long with a clear ask is better.
Mid-session corrections¶
You can correct her in the middle of a scene. A short message between task cards is enough. Examples:
- "Slow this down, I lost the thread."
- "Skip the next item, jump to the closing."
- "More direct - drop the metaphors."
Save the safe word for stopping the scene, not for fixing a single task.